Updated: Jun 29
If you have recently watched the Lewis Capaldi documentary on Netflix, then you won't be alone; it has been the number one show on Netflix in the UK since it came out. There are many interesting points on the show, from his tourettes, to his mental health. Capaldi spoke about his experience of therapy, and that to start with, 'finding a therapist that is right for you is a pain in the ring.'
This can be true, so it is important to understand a little more about finding a therapist and why you should persevere to find the one that is right for you.
The director of The Wellbeing Therapy Hut, Jess,had 7 therapists in her own personal therapy, before she started training to be one herself. Out of the 7, there were two that really 'got' her and understood her; the process is definitely trial and error. The personality of the therapist is important, as it might be one that clashes with your own. Being able to build a bond with your therapist is vital, because that is when you feel safe and can be vulnerable, which ultimately is when the changes are going to happen as things click into place.
At The Wellbeing Therapy Hut, we strongly believe that the relationship between client and therapist is so important. Sometimes this is more important than the therapy, as nothing is going to work if you don't feel connected or a bond with them. When you're able to connect with your therapist you will be able to feel comfortable. This means you'll be able to share freely and openly with them.
If you don't feel this with your current therapist, then it doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with you, or the therapist, for that matter. It can just mean that there is a clash of personalities perhaps, and we will work to find someone else for you to work with, and then go from there. Finding a therapist that works for you really is the goal of therapy. When that happens, the magic can then happen.
It is important to remember that if you don't feel connected right away with a therapist you are assigned to or been recommended to you, that therapy is rubbish or doesn't work for you. It simply means that you need to find a different therapist. Think of it like dating, for example. If you go on one bad date, does it put you off dating forever and you think that you won't do it again because it didn't work for you with that one person? No! it is all about finding the right person for you, and when it clicks, it clicks, and you'll start to see the benefit.
When you feel safe with your therapist, you can be vulnerable. And when you can be vulnerable, is when things will start to work for you and you'll start to see the benefit of therapy.
If you are looking for a good documentary on this subject, as well as some other topics around mental health, then the'How I'm Doing Now' on Netflix is definitely worth a watch. Seeing a young man aged 25 sharing his struggles and what he's done about them, is really powerful.
If you are looking for a therapist, please get in touch and we will work with you to find one that works for you.